What An Amazing Option for Families Who Want More Time with Their Stillborn Babies
“I am here to tell you a story of a courageous family and little girl who’s sacred contract here on this planet was not meant to be earthly. A friend of mine messaged me stating at her routine ultrasound they identified her baby had hydrops, a condition not compatable with life in most cases, especially when found so early in pregnancy.
The OB at the clinic immediately recommend her terminating her pregnancy. She asked me what I thought. I dropped immediately into what I call “great grandma wisdom”, talking her through what her great cave grandma would have done. There would have been no high technological machine scanning her belly to tell her of this fate. She would have still enjoyed the feeling of LIFE moving inside of her. She would have woken before the passing of 10 moons and realized that her baby was on her way too early.
She would have been surrounded by her aunties, sisters & other females as they didn’t fear walking into what is most guaranteed part of life … death. So instead of falling into fear with the strong recommendation from the OB, she trusted her intuition, she let her baby pass on her own time & birthed her into the same place that she originally intended… at home.
Before the start of the waves that would bring her here, she came across an article in Cafemom where a mom in a similar situation talked about preserving her baby in saline water to mimic the amniotic fluid that baby had just come from. The process of her little body decaying was halted and over time, with changing the water every 6-8 hours, they were able to see their baby unfold… the redness of the skin, the pealing skin, all stopped. She looked through these mama’s pictures and knew it was right for their experience.
It was something I had never heard of in my 18 years of birth work, when she sent me her daughters pictures, I couldn’t stop looking at how beautiful she was. My eyes were filled with tears. What an amazing option for families who want more time with their babies. What an incredible way to be given their own time to say goodbye. And what an incredible gift to share with you all to know that this is an option.”