9 habits of parents who raise successful children
1. They have conversations with their kids.
Talking to your child can benefit his brain — and this effect starts early on. A previous SmartParenting.com.ph article says the more you talk to your baby, the more he recognizes sounds and words and his vocabulary expands. Research also says that using “mechanistic language” — offering detailed explanations to your child’s inquiries — when talking to him can help spark his curiosity and prepare him better for school.
2. They have dinner as a family.
Eating dinner altogether does more than strengthen the family bond. According to another Smart Parenting article, teens who have dinner more often with their families are less likely to obtain low grades in school. The Family Dinner Project adds that family dinners are a potent way to boost a child’s vocabulary.
3. They teach their kids to do chores.
No child is too young to start doing chores. Studies have found that when kids start doing chores early, they learn important life skills like responsibility and self-reliance and the importance of contributing to the betterment of a whole — in this case, the cleanliness of your home.
4. They read to their kids.
Reading to your child is one of the best things you could do for his brain. One study discovered that toddlers who are often read to are less likely to exhibit hyperactive and disruptive behavior, like tantrums. The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) also included reading in its Early Brain and Child Development strategy because it helps build a child’s socio-emotional-language skills and supports healthy brain development.
5. They let their kids fail.
It can be hard to see your child disappointed, but he can benefit greatly from experiencing failure. Not only does this save you from building a sense of entitlement in him; it also shows that you believe in him and helps foster his ability to handle and overcome disappointments — something he is bound to experience later in his life.
6. They foster their kids’ social skills.
Preparing your child for school should involve not only teaching him how to count and say the alphabet but also developing his social skills, like playing with others, being sensitive to others’ feelings, and respecting others’ personal space. According to a study, kids who demonstrate these skills are more likely to go to college, get a job, and stay out of jail than those who don’t.
7. They develop a relationship with their kids.
Citing a 2014 study, Business Insider notes that kids who receive “sensitive caregiving” in their first three years tend to do better in childhood academic tests, have healthier relationships, and obtain greater academic attainment. Sensitive caregivers are those who respond to a child’s signals and give him a secure base to explore the world.
8. They’re authoritative, not authoritarian.
There are lots of parenting styles, but experts say authoritative is the most effective one in raising a child. Authoritative parents set clear and consistent rules they expect their child to follow, give him the space to grow, and form a strong bond with him so they can figure out the appropriate limits to establish.
9. They keep screen time to a minimum.
One study found that excessive screen time seems to slow a child’s brain development, impacting his language, literacy, and cognitive skills. It can even affect his motor skills and make it more difficult for him to hold a pencil. While it’s possible to make screen time productive, ensuring your child’s days don’t just consist of him staring into a screen should be a priority.